What is Personality?
Personality is the unbroken series of successful gestures so be the best version of yourself. Although no single definition is acceptable to all personality theorist. We can say that personality is a pattern of relatively permanent traits and unique characteristics that give both consistency and individuality to a person’s behaviour.
What are Traits?
Traits are the centre of personality psychology, traits are the characteristics that influence our behaviour, these characteristics typically set us apart from other people, e,g; u may describe yourself as a Respectful person or a Genuine person, these are two examples of personality traits. Traits influence our behaviour, they don’t dictate it. When you are a respectful person, you tend to be respectful to other people around you but you can act out of your character depending on your mood. This is one of the reasons why traits are usually measured on a scale.
How does personality work?
We display traits through something called psychological mechanism. Psychological Mechanisms are like traits expect they are the processes of personality. So, the process has 3 parts;
Our traits determine the output and sometimes they also determine what type of input we encounter.
How is personality measured?
For the answer we look to Kluckhohn and Murray, in 1953 they published PERSONALITY IN NATURE, SOCIETY & CULTURE, in this book they say that every man is in certain respects like all of the men, like some other men, like no other man. There are universal traits and mechanisms that make humans unique to other species. At the more specific level, we all have things that make us unique, maybe you have a special talent or strange behaviour that confuses your friends, habits, routines and emotional connections to people that make us different from the person next to us.
Here, are the three examples that prove we humans are alike;
- We have a need to belong.
- We want a feeling of purpose.
- And we get angry if someone punches us on our face.
Where Does Personality Come From?
You might hear your family members telling you that you have a similar personality to your mother or your father, so does it mean personality is inherited? Of course not. There are a ton of different explanations that explain this or attempt to explain this. Genetics is one, but the environment, experiences you have, biology and trends going on in your culture may also explain where you got your personality traits.
One interesting thought is that we co-create our personalities and personalities are the persons we interact with.
What Is Personality Development?
Personality development is the relatively enduring pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that distinguish individuals from one another.
For developing an attractive personality, you must do few things:
- Manage your emotions:
It’s inevitable that we’re all going to have bad days, that is why it is important to stay on top of things. If you want to improve your emotions you must know how to manage your emotions. Being around someone who is always negative is extremely draining.
One must take responsibility for his/her self and focus on the things that could be changed.
- Stop caring too much:
The fear of being judged prevents most people from speaking up, as a result, they stifle their personality and try too hard to fit in.
- Be Helpful to Others:
A relationship is like a bank account, you need to make more deposits than you withdraw. If you want to develop an attractive personality, be helpful to others.
- Avoid Comparing Yourself with Others:
You get exactly what you think about the most, so if you keep magnifying your flaws then you’re not going to feel good about yourself. Remember, nobody is perfect and we all have our shortcomings, but you get to decide where you put your attention to.
- Appear more friendly:
We all make snap judgments about people right away based on what we see. If you look unfriendly, then you might be sending out the wrong impression to others.
- Embrace Your Quirks:
Remember, nobody likes people who are fake, that’s why you should not pretend to be someone that you are not. To develop an attractive personality, you need to accept who you are.
- Develop Your Wit:
Learning how to be witty will make all your interactions more interesting. When you have a good sense of humour, you will raise your status in any group.
- Be Curious About Others:
We all have an innate desire to feel important. That’s why we like people who pay attention to us. Approach every conversation eager to learn something new.
- Be Reliable:
Make sure you follow through with your plans. That is where managing your time comes into play.
- Always Be Humble:
You should always feel proud whenever you reach your goals, and try not to brag about them too much, if you do then you will come across with someone insecure. For people to like you more always be humble.
- Avoid Being Distracted:
Give whoever you are with your full and undivided attention.
- Try Not to Make Fun of Others:
Remember what goes around, comes around
- Be More Thoughtful:
Take the initiative and reach out to people in your network on a consistent basis.
- Do Your Best to Relate:
Familiarity builds comfort very quickly, we like people who are similar to us.
- Improve Your Communication Skills:
To build an attractive personality, it’s important to improve your communication skills.